Mercy withholds what we deserve and grace blesses what
we don’t deserve. Or look at it this way, Mercy is something you don't get when you should and grace is what you do get when you shouldn't. I used to see this repeatedly when I chaplain in
the prison system. Often God was ready to step up to the plate while people
stood contemplating. It was like seeing Jesus sitting at the well waiting for the woman of Samaria to come for water. Time after time, God was at work in
another’s heart before the person or others were ready to admit it.
It always helps to encourage one another to extend
grace when its importance hasn’t been grasped. Often, it takes a release of a
grudge or an experience of forgiveness to have the courage to offer grace to someone
who doesn’t understand.
When one holds a deep resentment, forgiving grace is
often not identified. And when another has wronged us, it’s difficult to recognize
God has already preceded anything we could possibly do. And yet we are still called
to echo that grace, give it voice, offer a healing presence.
Forgiveness is not easy for some people – pain has
been too deep – memory is too alive. And yet, if they decide to carry the
grudge, they risk continued connection to the offender giving him or her personal
power. Slowly this diminishes the light of love within.
A while back, our church book club studied ‘Made for
Goodness: and why this makes all the difference’ (Desmond and Mpho Tutu) “We
are made for God, who is the giver of life. We are made by God, who holds us in
life” (p.13) are statements that remind us of our and other’s creation, causing
us to think twice about undoing any of God’s work. My elderly Aunt Emily was
known to confront anyone who spoke against people with these words, “Now
Johnny, they are all God’s children.”
Therefore (my friends and all who read this) encourage
one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing (1
Thessalonians 5:11).
Blessings,
Donna