Friday, November 04, 2011

Till Alzheimer's do us part? - Nesdoly

Pat Robertson's answer to the question of what to do when a spouse has Alzheimer's sent shock waves through the audience of the 700 Club show this September. "He should divorce her and start all over again," he said. "Since Alzheimer's is a kind of living death," he went on, "divorce and remarriage wouldn't be violating the marriage vows of being faithful 'till death do us part.'"

Dr. Robert McQuilken did the opposite. When this theologian's wife took ill, he stayed faithfully at the side of his partner of 40 years to the extent of quitting his job so he could provide around-the-clock care.

Sickness is one of many reasons we can find, if we're looking, to rationalize breaking our marriage vows. But the Bible is clear that marital separation should be a rare thing. Here are some things the Bible says about the marriage bond:

• Husbands are to love their wives as themselves and as sacrificially as Christ loved the church, while wives are to respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:25,28, 33; Colossians 3:19).
• Wives of unbelieving husbands should stay with them, hopefully winning them to belief by their outer and inner beauty (1 Peter 3:1-4).
• Our prayers may be hindered by marital strife (1 Peter 3:7).

...and there's no expiry date on any of these.

This story in more depth:

By Violet Nesdoly - excerpted from "Till Alzheimer's Do Us Part" posted originally on Other Food: daily devos.



1 comment:

Peter Black said...

Violet, sincere thanks to you for bringing this topic to us in such a direct and clear way.
Dr. McQuilken's loving commitment to his wife provides the Christlike example that we all need -- even within the Christian community, and countervails the cultural stew that we otherwise might entertain, as the other Christian leader unfortunately appears to have done (-- a cautionary tale for those of us in positions of influence representing the Gospel of Christ).

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