Should you write for free to establish your career? Guidelines for deciding.
Ever wondered what editors do? Wikipedia shows us, by not doing it.
People are beginning to notice, too. People you didn’t expect are beginning to care.
Why study history? So you won’t sound like the students who appear in this vid
American students don’t even know which country Hitler (mis)governed
Arts vs. scientism, NOT science
Wieseltier vs. Pinker
The alchemists were not as unscientific as some claim
Here’s what looks to be a useful article on neuroscience and study habits ( not fluff with a cute title)
You’re welcome!
Denyse O'Leary is co-author of The Spiritual Brain.
Looking for a place to feel inspired and challenged? Like to share a smile or a laugh? Interested in becoming more familiar with Canadian writers who have a Christian worldview? We are writers who live in different parts of Canada, see life from a variety of perspectives, and write in a number of genres. We share the goal of wanting to entertain and inspire you to be all you can be with God's help.
Monday, November 04, 2013
Tuesday, October 29, 2013
Which Hole? Kathleen Gibson
My daughter and I, along with several other women from our church, stood in our friend Loretta’s driveway, preparing to leave on a weekend retreat. As her husband helped load her luggage into their van, I noticed a small circular cutout in the driveway under the van's bumper. The shallow hole, a few inches in diameter, encased something metal.
“Arnold,” I said, pointing. “What’s that hole for?” “Oh,” he said, tossing in the last suitcase. “I use it to get my spare out.”
I didn't mean to be dense, but it occurred to me suddenly that in all the years the Preacher and I have owned vehicles, we've never had to drive on top of a hole in our driveway to retrieve our spare tire.
“I don't get it. How?” “Well,” said Arnold, "I put a little tool in that hole so I can lift the floor to get at the tire."
I stood, bewildered. “Is that the only way to get your spare out?” “Yes,” he said, though my question seemed to confound him.
Desperate to understand this new method of spare tire extraction, I ploughed on. “I’m just curious. What happens if you have to change a tire when you’re not here in the driveway. In the middle of nowhere, for instance?” Beside the highway. In the dark. I really wondered.
We tossed the hole problem back and forth a few more times, neither of us comprehending why the other couldn't understand. Finally Arnold had no more answers and I had no more questions. There we stood, him scratching his head, me staring down at the hole. Utterly baffled.
Finally, one of the other women, none of whom had so far even peeped, broke the impasse with a remarkable question. “Uh…Arnold, do you know which hole Kathleen is talking about?”
He shrugged, stretched out his hand, bent over and touched the hole he’d just spend an entire week's worth of words explaining. A small hole—on the floor of the back of the van. The hole in which he inserts some kind of tool that lets him access his spare tire, wherever and whenever he needs it.
My fellow females and I began hooting like a parliament of owls as we realized that given his added height and his proximity to the van tailgate, Arnold couldn’t even see the hole I'd noticed in his driveway. And I hadn’t noticed the small hole he’d tried so hard to explain. The one in the floor of the van itself.
After we clarified our holes, after the hooting stopped, we started over. This time, he explained what I didn't understand in one simple sentence. "That hole is the shut-off valve for our city water."
Whether discussing holes or the holy things of faith—God, the Bible, Jesus, salvation—that conversation demonstrates a vital principle of effective dialogue:
Be sure everyone is pointing at the same hole.
All that reminds me of this little conversation between Bill Cosby and a member of his audience: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RO1kmfLmGRA
Kathleen Gibson ponders faith and life in her newspaper column, Sunny Side Up,
and on her radio spots, Simple Words, aired weekdays on numerous
Christian stations.
“Arnold,” I said, pointing. “What’s that hole for?” “Oh,” he said, tossing in the last suitcase. “I use it to get my spare out.”
I didn't mean to be dense, but it occurred to me suddenly that in all the years the Preacher and I have owned vehicles, we've never had to drive on top of a hole in our driveway to retrieve our spare tire.
“I don't get it. How?” “Well,” said Arnold, "I put a little tool in that hole so I can lift the floor to get at the tire."
I stood, bewildered. “Is that the only way to get your spare out?” “Yes,” he said, though my question seemed to confound him.
Desperate to understand this new method of spare tire extraction, I ploughed on. “I’m just curious. What happens if you have to change a tire when you’re not here in the driveway. In the middle of nowhere, for instance?” Beside the highway. In the dark. I really wondered.
We tossed the hole problem back and forth a few more times, neither of us comprehending why the other couldn't understand. Finally Arnold had no more answers and I had no more questions. There we stood, him scratching his head, me staring down at the hole. Utterly baffled.
Finally, one of the other women, none of whom had so far even peeped, broke the impasse with a remarkable question. “Uh…Arnold, do you know which hole Kathleen is talking about?”
He shrugged, stretched out his hand, bent over and touched the hole he’d just spend an entire week's worth of words explaining. A small hole—on the floor of the back of the van. The hole in which he inserts some kind of tool that lets him access his spare tire, wherever and whenever he needs it.
My fellow females and I began hooting like a parliament of owls as we realized that given his added height and his proximity to the van tailgate, Arnold couldn’t even see the hole I'd noticed in his driveway. And I hadn’t noticed the small hole he’d tried so hard to explain. The one in the floor of the van itself.
After we clarified our holes, after the hooting stopped, we started over. This time, he explained what I didn't understand in one simple sentence. "That hole is the shut-off valve for our city water."
Whether discussing holes or the holy things of faith—God, the Bible, Jesus, salvation—that conversation demonstrates a vital principle of effective dialogue:
Be sure everyone is pointing at the same hole.
~*~*~*~*~*~
All that reminds me of this little conversation between Bill Cosby and a member of his audience: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RO1kmfLmGRA
Kathleen Gibson ponders faith and life in her newspaper column, Sunny Side Up,
and on her radio spots, Simple Words, aired weekdays on numerous
Christian stations. Friday, October 25, 2013
A Quick and Simple Task - M. Laycock
I have never been an early riser. It was always a
struggle for me to get out of bed in the morning when I was young. My
sluggishness likely had a lot to do with the fact that I hid under the blankets
with a flashlight reading until the wee hours. As the morning sunlight lit my
room my mom would call several times before my toes would finally slip over the
side and touch the floor. Then it took a long time in the shower to really wake
up before heading downstairs for breakfast. And when I got to the kitchen the
refrain was always the same.
“Did you make your bed?”
I’d groan and trudge back upstairs, knowing there
would be no breakfast until that small task was done. One morning I asked my
mother why she always insisted that I make my bed.
“It’s a good start,” she said. “It means you’re
ready for the day.”
I couldn’t help but think about my mom’s words this
past Sunday as my husband preached on Acts 9 verses 32-43. It was verse 34 that
triggered the memory. Peter had stopped in the town of Lydda where a man named
Aeneas, a paralytic, caught his attention. He stopped long enough to heal the
man, saying, “Aeneas, Jesus Christ heals you. Get up and take care of your
mat.” That last sentence made me sit up straight. Why did Peter tell him to
take care of his mat? Was it in the way? Was it unsightly? Or was Peter saying
something more to Aeneas? I wondered if perhaps he was saying, get ready
Aeneas, a new day is beginning, things are about to happen and there’s a
purpose for you in them.
And that made we wonder about the purpose of the
healing, the purpose of the blessing. God does not act randomly or without
reason. His actions, and most especially his blessings, always have purpose.
That made me think of all the blessings I’ve been
given in my life. It’s a long list and the realization that it all has purpose
made me begin to think about what God intends me to do. He’s given me wealth so
I should share it, food and a home to open to others. He’s given me health so I
can do His will on this earth. He’s given me family that I might raise them to
go into the world and bless others. He’s given me the talent of writing so that
I might glorify His name through story. All of his blessings have an outward
slant, none are intended to be hidden or hoarded.
My mother trained me well. Making my bed is still
something I do each morning. It makes me feel that the day has started and I’m
ready for it. This morning, as I did that quick and simple task I wondered what
God had in store for me today. What am I to be ready for? Ready to hear his
voice, ready to move when he says “go,” ready to speak when His Spirit directs.
Yes, all of these things and more. I’m to be ready to receive His blessings and
use them for His purposes.
What about you? Have you made your bed?
****
Marcia Lee Laycock writes from central Alberta
Canada where she is a pastor's wife and mother of three adult daughters. She
was the winner of The Best New Canadian Christian Author Award for her novel,
One Smooth Stone and also has two devotional books in print. Her work has been
endorsed by Sigmund Brouwer, Janette Oke, Phil Callaway and Mark Buchanan. Marcia's
second novel, A Tumbled Stone was recently short listed in the contemporary
fiction category of The
Word Awards. Abundant Rain, an ebook devotional for
writers can be downloaded here.
Visit Marcia’s website
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Wednesday, October 23, 2013
How to Write a Book Review - Laura J. Davis
What type of people review books today? Do you have to have certain qualifications? Should you charge for book reviews? Do I have to be a professional writer? These are questions I get asked all the time, and so I thought it might be helpful to share with you, on how to get a review started.
There are tons of people on the web today who review books. Some of them are professional
writers, others are just people who have read a good book and want to
tell everyone what they thought about it. Still, there are those who
love to read and love to get free books and feel it is a way to give back.
Others find themselves in the unenviable position of having a friend ask them to review their "just released" book. They say yes, start reading and then find themselves in a pickle. Why? Because the book is horrible! What will they say to their friend? How can they break it to them gently without ruining their friendship? Some get so concerned about hurting an author's feelings that they give up reviewing books altogether. It doesn't have to be that hard. I have read books by all kinds of different authors, some of them I liked and some ... well ... they just weren't my cup of tea. But being afraid of hurting someone's feelings shouldn't put you off reviewing a book. You don't have to be mean about it and if the author you are reviewing is smart they will keep your thoughts in mind as they begin their next book.
It is a wise author who can look at a review as they would a critique
and learn from it. They may not be able to change the book just reviewed, but they can remember those suggestions and use them to improve their next book.
So, how do you start a review? I begin with the overall feeling I had when I finished the book. Did it move me to tears or laughter? Was I sighing with satisfaction? Or, was I just glad to get it over with? Very rarely do I find a book that I don't enjoy or learn something from. But sometimes I do come across books that leave me groaning aloud, longing for it to end. I will tell you what I do in that situation in a minute. For now, let's concentrate on a book you have
just finished reading. How did it make you feel? Did you learn
anything? What was the major theme of the book? These three questions
help me write my opening lines. Below are a few examples of opening lines to books I have recently reviewed, to give you a better idea on how I begin.
"Once again Ann H. Gabhart
has blown me away with another great book. She never disappoints and
Scent of Lilacs will bring you to tears, make you laugh and if you grew
up in a small town in the 60's like I did, bring back fond memories."
"I
review for several publishing houses, but once in a while I like to
read something self-published, because I always find gems. Melody's Song
by author Kathleen Friesen is my latest find."
"If
you are new to writing, have a million questions and don't quite know
where to go to get them - have I got a book for you! Duke the Chihuahua
Writes, by award-winning author Donna Fawcett (and Duke the Chihuahua of course) is a delightful book for the beginning writer."
As you can see, all three of these books made an impression on me and so I try to convey that feeling in the first opening lines. As it is in writing a story, the same is true of reviews. You need an opening line. Something that will draw the reader in enough to keep them reading until the end. You do not want to jump in and start describing the story and characters right away. That comes next. The opening lines are personal. They should reach out to your audience as if they were in the room with you and you were discussing the book over tea. They should
express an eagerness to share with the world the "gem" you just found.
Also, please note the titles of books should be in italics and the
author's name should be in bold. In addition, try to limit your reviews to no more than 350 words. Some newspapers require less than that. So be aware of your word count.
The next paragraph or two, will involve introducing the characters without giving away the ending. In other words, a general outline of the story. The following are examples:
"After
losing her husband to cancer, the author began to chronicle her
thoughts and experiences of what she was going through. She begins with
the statement, "By the end of this month, I expect to know my own name."
This sets the tone of the book and guides the reader along with the
author on her journey to self-discovery. The result is a book that will
bring much comfort to anyone who has lost a spouse - widow or widower."
"Melody
Jamison has recently moved to Saskatoon. While her move was necessary
(she could no longer keep up the farm after her husband died), she also
hoped that the nightmares of her husband's tragic death would go away in
a new setting. Unfortunately for Melody, changing locations doesn't
work. In addition to the nightmares that plague her, she worries over
her son Will, who left home determined to prove he didn't need his
parents, God, or anyone else. As Melody tries to lift her
concerns to the Lord, she begins to doubt her faith in God and demonic
attacks soon set in. But God is bigger than Satan and He uses the people
in her new neighbourhood to not only strengthen her faith, but confirm
to those around her that God is real and loves them."
Both of these examples are very different. One is of a non-fiction book, the other is a novel. The first book impacted me so much, I wrote three paragraphs on
what I learned (disobeying my own rule of keeping reviews
to 350 words or less). The novel on the other hand, required only one paragraph to best describe what was inside the book. Sometimes, for novels, I may take two paragraphs in order to highlight the important characters.
The next part of the review becomes personal. Imagine you are in your kitchen having tea with a friend and you are expressing what you loved the most about a book you read and how it impacted you. Now write what you felt. This is also where you gently let the author know what would have helped the book if you were disappointed in it, what you found distracting, or
to point out improper formatting, excessive typos, etc. This is not
where you are mean. There is never any call to be mean. Pretend you are
in a critique group and "sandwich" your review. In other words, start out positive then suggest areas that could use improvement - if it is necessary. Don't look for things to criticize, just to be critical. If you enjoyed the book then what is the point of telling the author she had a typo on page 258? It doesn't add to your review and makes you look petty. After you have made your suggestions end on a positive note.
You do not have to give glowing reviews everytime. Let's face it, some books just miss the mark. If
you can't find anything good about the book, then don't write a review!
Email the author and explain why you had a hard time with it and why you cannot post your review. If
however, you are being paid to write a review then you have no choice.
Please let the author down gently. You don't know how old they are -
they could just be starting out. Don't discourage them, encourage them by focusing on what they did right and then suggesting what could be improved.
I finish all my reviews with a final line and a rating. For example:
With lots of romance and intrigue this is another Tracie Peterson book you will want on your shelf. I give it 5/5 stars!
I hope these examples help you as you write your next review!
Tuesday, October 22, 2013
Retain or Remove
“Don’t worry,” the saleslady told me when I ordered laminate
flooring for our main floor, “Our workers will move the furniture as they
install. They’ll move everything to one side, do that side then move it all to
the other side of the room.”
That sounded wonderful.
I have children and grandchildren who could help, but they all have busy
lives. If the workmen would move the
furniture, I wouldn’t have to bother them.
The first thing I saw when I came home and started imagining
the ratty, stained carpet replaced by shining laminate, was the big glass cupboard
fashioned by my loving husband, full of dishes—good dishes that seldom get
used. If the workmen tried to move that
with the dishes inside, they’d probably not able to budge it, and if they did,
the dishes would go for a slide.
Obviously, I will have to take the dishes out. What if I found other places for those I don’t
really need? That would de-clutter my
life and make it easier to keep clean.
I moved to my office.
As a writer, and a bit of a sentimental pack rat, I have files and files
of interesting items I might need some time (emphasis on might and some.) My bookshelf is full of books about writing
and for writing. Some I use often,
others I have barely scratched the surface of the pool of wisdom contained in
them. I have copies of talks given and
revised for a slightly different setting.
Oh, they’re on my computer too, but I might need them sometime in the
future. There are CD’s and installation
discs for computer programs that have long ago become extinct. I began to sort
and decipher which of those items need to be kept and which need to go. But the flooring people are due to come next
week.
Reluctantly, I began to put things in boxes and marking them
as to contents, storing them in our garage with the aim to sort when I return
my office to working order after the floors are installed. In the back of my mind I wonder how long that
is going to take and fear that some of those boxes may never see the light of
day.
This morning as we read or daily devotional and God’s word,
it dawned on me how much my life and my mind resemble my office. In today’s world we are assaulted with
information from so many directions. I
love facts about just about everything.
I’m interested in people and love to be able to respond to needs to
encourage those going through difficult times, to remember birthdays and
anniversaries, and to send cards for different occasions or no occasion at
all. I like to stay in touch with
friends from long ago and friends currently in my life. I am involved in many committees and
organizations doing all kinds of good things: when I’m involved I don’t want to
be only an observer, so I often chair the committee, take minutes or participate
in an active way. Often my mind feels
like my office—books, binders, reference materials, pictures, articles in files
and drawers, stacked on shelves and overflowing—a whole pile of information
waiting to be filed, and sometimes lost in the plethora, the overabundance of material.
When it comes to my office and my mind, it seems to be not
just a question of whether, but a necessary action that must be taken. I realize I’m not getting younger. My mind is still active and I want to keep it
that way. However like many machines, if
I keep feeding it too much and too fast, it can get overloaded and perhaps my
grind to a halt. I need to discern more
closely what is necessary, what is expedient and what is superfluous, what can
be left for others to do. For some
people, the super organizers, that may come naturally. I’ve always had distaste for those who sit back
and say “Someone else can do that.” I
fear becoming one of those people, so it’s hard for me to let go. I need counsel and wisdom to help me know
what to discard from my life and what to retain—both in my office and in my
mind.
How glad I am for James 1:5—“If any of you
lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding
fault, and it will be given to you.”
Ruth Smith Meyer is included in the anthology, "Fifty Shades of Grace."
She is also author of two adult novels, "Not Easily Broken," and the sequel "Not Far from the Tree," and a children's book dealing with grief, "Tyson's Sad Bad Day."
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Friday, October 18, 2013
Heart-Swell — Peter Black
Modified slightly from original post-Thanksgiving article,
written for P-Pep! column and published in the Southwestern Ontario newspaper, The Guide-Advocate – October 17, 2013.
How was your Thanksgiving weekend?
Sweet . . . or bitter? Perhaps bittersweet?
Bittersweet – I’m sure that’s a how
a friend of ours felt about hers, for while she is grateful for her wonderful
family, she cannot help but recall the sudden death of her husband two years
ago, which occurred within several days of the Thanksgiving weekend.
My wife and I enjoyed lunch and a
pleasant visit with her last week. It was evident, though – and perfectly
understandable, that a clear element of sadness surfaced, especially in view of
the approaching anniversary of her loss and the holiday weekend.
We were glad
and honoured to have known Ron and worked with him many years ago, when I was
the couple’s pastor. He was an upstanding man in the community, who was
unashamed of his Christian faith, but who quietly lived it, taking an interest
in people and performing deeds of kindness, without fanfare, behind the scenes.
It’s mostly since his death that I’ve learned more about how active he’d been
in this way.
A brilliant sun lit up the goldenrod, and purples, whites and yellows of
wayside flowers, contrasted by beige and brown of broad-leafed tall grass and
bulrushes. Acres of golfing greens flanked the open areas, and in places we
swished our way through fallen leaves and enjoyed the music of creek waters
singing through rapids.
The heart-swell included my sister
Marg and her husband’s safe return from the UK, and also relief that our recent
musical stint at a church’s anniversary service went well, and that our voices
held out so we could fulfil that commitment. Gratitude for many more blessings
of everyday life, of family members and friends, and of our community and
country flooded my heart and mind. Nature’s beauty has a capacity for elevating
wonder and intensifying appreciation.
What stands out as you reflect on the fall season thus far
and your Thanksgiving weekend? Your heart aches for someone who passed away
since last year or one now living too distant to journey home? A relational
difficulty’s left an empty chair? I hope you experienced some heart-swell too.
Making a modest contribution of items towards a local food bank is a simple and
effective way for expressing gratitude, and that connects you to other people’s
lives and homes, even if you don’t know them.
David expresses heart-swell in numerous psalms. For example: “O
Lord, our Lord, how majestic is your name in all the earth! You have set your
glory above the heavens. From the lips of children and infants you have
ordained praise . . .” (from Psalm 8:1-2a).
May heart-swell prompt heart-felt praise from our lips as
children of God.
~~+~~
Peter A. Black is a
freelance writer in Southwestern Ontario, and is author of “Parables from the
Pond” – a children's / family book (mildly educational, inspirational in
orientation, character reinforcing). (Finalist -- Word Alive Press ISBN 1897373-21-X)His inspirational column, P-Pep! appears weekly in The Guide-Advocate. His articles have appeared in 50 Plus Contact and testimony, and several newspapers in Ontario. Peter’s current book project comprises a collection of 52 column articles.
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Thursday, October 17, 2013
Forgotten Joys - Eleanor Shepherd
I am still trying to figure out what makes grandchildren grab your heart the way they do. I find there is nothing quite like the experience of time spent with them. I am trying to understand what the magic is that they bring into our worlds.
It seems to be more than just their joy at beholding the unfolding of life. I remember watching with fascination as my own children discovered the world around them and found names to put on their experiences. I watched with wonderment as they observed and began to interact with their world. The process was part of the bonding with us as they began exploring those things that were a part of our lives. However, with grandchildren the adventure seems to go beyond new discoveries. With the unfolding of the treasures of each new day comes an incredible exuberance. Perhaps our focus on being good parents blinds us to this in our children.
As I was reflecting about this infectious excitement of our little granddaughter this morning, I wondered if the secret weapon that she holds that unlocks our hearts in a way nothing else can is her ability to remind us of forgotten joys.
By the time that our children have grown and we have been through the challenges of their teens and early adulthood we can find ourselves somewhat jaded and worn down by the obstacles and unexpected events that we have had to overcome and work through. The lustre has faded on our parenting experience. Then into our lives comes a new generation and hope returns.
It sneaks up on us in unexpected ways. Last evening I had a business meeting and went to my daughter’s home, near my office for a quick bite of supper with her family. When I arrived little Sanna was just waking from her nap. With bright eyes she beckoned me to come in. She wanted to share with me all the toys on her bed, introducing me to each one with joy. As her little hand beckons me to ‘’Come in, Gamma,’’ I cannot resist and a smile spreads over my face as joy springs up within. I have forgotten the joy of just being able to delight in new discoveries with someone you love.
As she hops out of bed, she asks me if I want to, ‘’Play toys, Gamma?’’ With great delight she systematically pulls all of the toys off her shelves to share them with me. Together we talk to the animals, make music with the shaker and xylophone and flip though a couple of her books, before she decides it is time to turn to her easel and create a masterpiece with markers. As we move from one thing to another together, I sense the load of cares from my busy adult life slipping away. In its place returns the joy of pleasure in simple things. I remember again what is really important.
Last week, this little girl turned two years old. We had a celebration and her eyes lit up with glee when we turned out the lights and lit the two candles on the pumpkin pie, which she prefers to cake. We sang the song that she calls, ‘’Happy to you.’’ The word birthday is still a little too sophisticated for her vocabulary, but she knows that the essence of that song is that she is important and it is being sung to her. She reminds me again of the joy that each of us realize when we discover the unique contribution that we make to our world. At the moment her most significant contribution is the joy that she spreads wherever she goes and maybe that is the greatest gift that I can give as well. I find myself refueled with a sense of hope and well-being as I share her life. Perhaps that is the secret weapon of grandchildren – the ability to rekindle forgotten joys.

It seems to be more than just their joy at beholding the unfolding of life. I remember watching with fascination as my own children discovered the world around them and found names to put on their experiences. I watched with wonderment as they observed and began to interact with their world. The process was part of the bonding with us as they began exploring those things that were a part of our lives. However, with grandchildren the adventure seems to go beyond new discoveries. With the unfolding of the treasures of each new day comes an incredible exuberance. Perhaps our focus on being good parents blinds us to this in our children.
As I was reflecting about this infectious excitement of our little granddaughter this morning, I wondered if the secret weapon that she holds that unlocks our hearts in a way nothing else can is her ability to remind us of forgotten joys.
By the time that our children have grown and we have been through the challenges of their teens and early adulthood we can find ourselves somewhat jaded and worn down by the obstacles and unexpected events that we have had to overcome and work through. The lustre has faded on our parenting experience. Then into our lives comes a new generation and hope returns.
It sneaks up on us in unexpected ways. Last evening I had a business meeting and went to my daughter’s home, near my office for a quick bite of supper with her family. When I arrived little Sanna was just waking from her nap. With bright eyes she beckoned me to come in. She wanted to share with me all the toys on her bed, introducing me to each one with joy. As her little hand beckons me to ‘’Come in, Gamma,’’ I cannot resist and a smile spreads over my face as joy springs up within. I have forgotten the joy of just being able to delight in new discoveries with someone you love.
As she hops out of bed, she asks me if I want to, ‘’Play toys, Gamma?’’ With great delight she systematically pulls all of the toys off her shelves to share them with me. Together we talk to the animals, make music with the shaker and xylophone and flip though a couple of her books, before she decides it is time to turn to her easel and create a masterpiece with markers. As we move from one thing to another together, I sense the load of cares from my busy adult life slipping away. In its place returns the joy of pleasure in simple things. I remember again what is really important.
Last week, this little girl turned two years old. We had a celebration and her eyes lit up with glee when we turned out the lights and lit the two candles on the pumpkin pie, which she prefers to cake. We sang the song that she calls, ‘’Happy to you.’’ The word birthday is still a little too sophisticated for her vocabulary, but she knows that the essence of that song is that she is important and it is being sung to her. She reminds me again of the joy that each of us realize when we discover the unique contribution that we make to our world. At the moment her most significant contribution is the joy that she spreads wherever she goes and maybe that is the greatest gift that I can give as well. I find myself refueled with a sense of hope and well-being as I share her life. Perhaps that is the secret weapon of grandchildren – the ability to rekindle forgotten joys.

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Tuesday, October 15, 2013
Thanksgiving is a Life-Style/MANN
Thanksgiving
is not just a season, it's a lifestyle. It's not just a feast with opportunity
to gather the family around the table—it's an accumulation of blessings focused
on a time and day. While writing my last two historical novels, I was reminded
of the difference in the way that Eastern and Western Canada celebrated over
the years. It had been called the Season of Abundant Harvest at one time.
Wainwright Star stated Sunday was a time of remembering and giving thanks in spite of the summer's drought and failed crops. This season celebrated mainly in the church and around the family table was also emphasized around Armistice Day as a day of Remembrance and Thanksgiving and to offer thanks (Wainwright Star Oct. 1, 1919). Another perspective of thanksgiving is shown in this child's experience of her offering in the 90s:
"Being used to inserting my offering in the small envelope provided in the church pew when I visit a church, I picked up the only one available when it came time for the offering. Quickly I noticed that my six year old granddaughter had playfully drawn pictures and printed her name and address across it. Thinking she wouldn't mind, I carefully rubbed her name and addresses off the face of the envelope so the church wouldn't send her a receipt for my five-dollar bill.
Shades of playing the board game "Life" the previous day, explained her boldly written request "I want $100.00 followed by a happy-face." Rather than having the church elders think I was expecting a reverse offering, I rubbed her request off the envelope before placing the envelope on the plate as it was passed by me.
Unknown to me, my granddaughter spotted her envelope with her carefully drawn row of daisies across the top, as it rode along in the offering plate. Much to the dismay of her father, she attempted to take her envelope out, to which he gently pulled her hand away.
Being confused as to why her daisy trimmed envelope had suddenly gone into the hands of adults unknown to her, she began to pout and sulked down in her seat. During the children's story, she refused to go to the front of the church and continued to play with her fingers and look down at her feet. I reached behind to the back of my pew, retrieved two new blank envelopes and offered them to her. But to no avail—forgiveness was not an option at this time. She continued to withdraw, although she had moved out into the aisle and was watching from a distance.
Acknowledging
she had misunderstood the use of the envelopes, I went over and knelt beside
her in the aisle of the church and said, "Thank you for preparing the
envelope. Grandma put some money in it and gave it to God. It was such a nice
present with your pretty flowers. I'm sorry if I gave away something you
wanted. For you to give to God that which you wanted to keep for yourself makes it very special—that is a true
offering. Is it all right to give it to
God?"
Wainwright Star stated Sunday was a time of remembering and giving thanks in spite of the summer's drought and failed crops. This season celebrated mainly in the church and around the family table was also emphasized around Armistice Day as a day of Remembrance and Thanksgiving and to offer thanks (Wainwright Star Oct. 1, 1919). Another perspective of thanksgiving is shown in this child's experience of her offering in the 90s:
"Being used to inserting my offering in the small envelope provided in the church pew when I visit a church, I picked up the only one available when it came time for the offering. Quickly I noticed that my six year old granddaughter had playfully drawn pictures and printed her name and address across it. Thinking she wouldn't mind, I carefully rubbed her name and addresses off the face of the envelope so the church wouldn't send her a receipt for my five-dollar bill.
Shades of playing the board game "Life" the previous day, explained her boldly written request "I want $100.00 followed by a happy-face." Rather than having the church elders think I was expecting a reverse offering, I rubbed her request off the envelope before placing the envelope on the plate as it was passed by me.
Unknown to me, my granddaughter spotted her envelope with her carefully drawn row of daisies across the top, as it rode along in the offering plate. Much to the dismay of her father, she attempted to take her envelope out, to which he gently pulled her hand away.
Being confused as to why her daisy trimmed envelope had suddenly gone into the hands of adults unknown to her, she began to pout and sulked down in her seat. During the children's story, she refused to go to the front of the church and continued to play with her fingers and look down at her feet. I reached behind to the back of my pew, retrieved two new blank envelopes and offered them to her. But to no avail—forgiveness was not an option at this time. She continued to withdraw, although she had moved out into the aisle and was watching from a distance.
Acknowledging
she had misunderstood the use of the envelopes, I went over and knelt beside
her in the aisle of the church and said, "Thank you for preparing the
envelope. Grandma put some money in it and gave it to God. It was such a nice
present with your pretty flowers. I'm sorry if I gave away something you
wanted. For you to give to God that which you wanted to keep for yourself makes it very special—that is a true
offering. Is it all right to give it to
God?"
She
nodded and tried to smile. With that, she pushed back into the seat, prepared
another envelope identical to the first one—without the rub-offs and went on
her way to Sunday school. This was an active act of forgiveness within a
service of forgiveness—holy ground.
Blessings,
Donna
http://www.donnamann.org
Coming soon:
Aggie's Voice - Agnes Macphail in Stratford. The final book in the Aggie trilogy
A Rare Find - Ethel Ayres Bullymore: Legend of an Epic Canadian Midwife
Aggie's Voice - Agnes Macphail in Stratford. The final book in the Aggie trilogy
A Rare Find - Ethel Ayres Bullymore: Legend of an Epic Canadian Midwife
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