Now there’s a word much maligned – purity.
In a sea of morally-challenged, barely-dressed women who
flaunt their immodesty on television, Michelle Duggar is a breath of decency.
Yes, she may go a little overboard with the sleeves, long dresses and no pants
but her extremes help to bring balance to a society that has lost its modesty
almost completely.
I marvel at Michelle’s organizational skills. Her family’s
visits to the local grocery store, even their laundry routines and famous child
jurisdictions fascinate me. Occasionally when the entire brood has appeared on
a morning show, I noted that no teenagers rolled their eyes and the younger
ones didn’t elbow, pout and clamor for their mother’s attention. How does she
do it?
Now, Michelle’s show, Nineteen
Kids and Counting, has ended.
It ended abruptly after the news broke that their oldest
son, Josh, sexually molested younger girls when he was fourteen or fifteen.
Criminal behaviour. No sympathies there.
Except to say that rehabilitation for teenage transgressors is generally good for society.
When the news of her son’s sins hit the air waves, criticism
of Michelle and her husband roared into demolition gear. They criticized them
for not having their son charged. Would most parents have called police? At present, not enough is known about the crime to answer this.
Michelle’s one of those nutty homeschoolers they said. In
some minds, that relegated her to the nether regions with those in the armed
isolationist movement. A right-wing
religionist, one journalist wrote. I know many homeschoolers. Almost all are
building intelligent, high-quality students who go on to do well in life. They’re
not anti-social nerds. I never considered homeschooling my three children. And
if I had it to do over again I still wouldn’t. But I appreciate the enormous
commitment of moms who turn their homes into classrooms, search out curricula
and organize their lives around their children’s education.
Media types implied that Michelle must be responsible for
her son’s behaviour. Where does that thinking land parents who, in
spite of their best efforts, produce thieves, sexual deviates, murderers and an
assortment of criminals? Many Christian parents grieve over choices made by
their children. They lay awake at night, search their memories, lost in a sea
of guilt attempting to understand where they went wrong. Contrast this with
parents who lose not a wink of sleep, nor take any responsibility, for leading
their children into lifestyles that cause them pain and dysfunction.
Another criticism. Michelle is a proponent of extreme
motherhood. She is famous for saying, “Children are like flowers. You can never
have too many of them.” Who can argue with her logic? She has chosen not to use
contraceptives but to have “as many children as God gives her.” Most women
don’t choose this option but it is an option and she has a right to choose it.
I want to hear Michelle talk about her sorrow over her son’s
behaviour. Explain how she got through it, how she handled it, how it affected
her. (She may get that chance in an upcoming interview with Fox.) Some people
need to hear her – not to rebut her – but because a spoonful of godly wisdom
may drop from her lips into welcoming ears.
With several exceptions, a lot of U.S.
style television evangelism isn’t worth watching. That jet-owning,
mansion-living, thousand-dollar suit crowd attract deserved criticism and stain
the reputation of Christ-followers. Their distorted Christian message bears
little resemblance to Jesus or His message in the Bible.
In contrast, Michelle Duggar talks from the heart about God
and how she depends on Him for wisdom and strength. When her youngest child lay
in hospital for weeks, I was touched by her teary words about how she’d grown
closer to the Lord during that difficult time.
I like her way.
In the dry-as-a-stick TV land of distorted evangelism and
immoral lifestyles, Michelle Duggar was a welcome oasis.
And I miss her.
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© Rose McCormick Brandon 2015. Rose McCormick Brandon is the author of four books: Promises of Home - Stories of Canada's British Home Children, One Good Word Makes all the Difference, He Loves Me Not, He Loves Me and Vanished. Visit her website Writing From the Heart. Two blogs: Promises of Home and Listening to my Hair Grow. 
