I was one of the last people to buy a smart phone
and it immediately had a hold on me. The possibility of having internet on
demand was a new and exciting experience.
The majority of adults, teens and children have a Smartphone
in the palm of their hand wherever they go. It doesn’t appear to be only people
under the age of thirty five—the age category is more diverse than that. They
look at the screen while driving their cars, walking their dogs, eating in restaurants
and throughout their homes. Surveys indicate that there is no more than five
feet between an individual and their device. [i]
Apparently much of what goes on a mobile phone is built to be addictive
and one in eight of us will fall prey to its spell. [ii]
Hmm, they, whoever they are, know
what they are doing.
How would a Smartphone have affected my parenting if I
had one in the 1980’s? Most of today’s parents, like me, enjoy texting or looking
at their smartphones as often as possible. I see them with their heads bent
over their screen while their children are playing in the park, when they are eating
out or attending a child’s sporting event. Physically they are with their
children, but mentally they seem distracted. They may even be viewing someone else’s
child doing a cute stunt on You Tube. When
this is happening, their own children tend to act out or misbehave to try and regain
their parent’s attention, but then everything seems to deteriorate into an
unpleasant scene.
I wanted to know how widespread the problem was and started
researching the topic. It was a surprise to me that most articles I found dealt
with parents trying to limit and control the amount of time their children spend on electronic devices. There
was very little focus on controlling the parent’s excessive use of
technology.
If our children have a problem, would it not follow that we
are their examples? There are laws and fines for distracted driving,
but what about distracted parenting—or grandparenting?
Jesus always made children a priority “Let
the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to
those who are like these children.” (Matthew 19:14 NLT)
When I asked a mother of two about writing on this
topic, she replied, “I’ve read articles on the topic that
mostly make us feel like terrible people, but if you could find a way to equip
us with tips or ideas on how to help break these bad habits when we are with
our kids, and leave us encouraged, I think you’ll have written something really
valuable.”
So with her and others in mind, I am listing a few practical
ideas to help control smartphone usage (btw, I took some of these ideas for
breaking a bad habit from the internet):
·
Pray for guidance. “The
temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God
is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand.
When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.” (1 Corinthians
10:13 NLT)
·
Recognize it as a problem
and don’t deny or minimize the impact it may be having on your family. Talk to
them about it.
·
Notice the time of day,
locations, or situations where you are most tempted to indulge in this
activity. Set goals for when you can use the phone and make a
commitment to turn it off at the same time each night.
·
Analyze why being socially
connected is so enjoyable. It may be a symptom of deeper needs, such as boredom
or loneliness.
·
Eliminate Apps, emails, and friends or groups
who blog or post constantly.
·
Plan family activities such
as board games, biking, library visits or writing a play and create good family
memories—no phones allowed during these times.
·
Ask your children to help you
be accountable—turn it into a fun reward for good behaviour.
Mobile
technology offers us some benefits— safety, convenience, connection to old and
new friends and colleagues, immediate information when we need it and much
more. Giving up our phones isn’t an option, but setting boundaries can be. As a
Christian this war can be won by “Put(ing)
on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all
strategies of the devil.” (Ephesians 6:11 NLT)
The Serenity prayer seems
like a good way to close, “God grant me the serenity to accept the
things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know
the difference.”
[i]
http://www.addictiontips.net/phone-addiction/phone-addiction-facts/
[ii]
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2977879/https://carolfordassociates.wordpress.com/One-eight-people-addicted-smartphone-use-worse-gets-study-claims.html
Carol Ford - Author in Christmas with Hot Apple Cider
https://carolfordassociates.wordpress.com/
4 comments:
How I agree with you! My family despairs because they can't reach me on my cell phone. I have it turned off most of the time. One of my children asked me to come to celebrate my birthday. The gave me a wonderful meal and a nice gift they knew I would enjoy, but during the meal they all had their cells beside them and all of them were used during the meal. At our Christmas meal, I request that cells be deposited in a basket while we eat. So far, no one has died because they didn't have immediate access! : )
Agreed, Carol and Ruth. As it is, I've avoided becoming fully conversant with the little 'beast,' and am therefore somewhat handicapped in using it for many functions. And so, I spend little time online with the phone. I've also cut way back on cruising sites and fb and other social platforms (sorry, my dear friends; some of you know I only dart in and out these days!).
Carol, thank for sharing your thoughts and suggestions on better handling this current, intrusive, and yet otherwise helpful technological innovation. ~~+~~
Why is it that smartphones make us dumber? Some great thoughts, Carol.
I'm actually one that keeps my phone in sight and would not change this practice. It is my alarm clock and so it must be in range of my arm just as my other alarm clock was. It holds my banking information and a lot of other services that have become mandatory in this age so I keep it as close as my purse and treat it with the same care. We do exercise "phone off time" during meal times and other gatherings but since I work from home the phone assumes a lunch larger significance than when I worked outside the home. Your point provokes things and that is always a good thing. Merry Christmas, Carol.
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