I will flat out state it – I find many authority figures
troubling.
Wait, let me qualify that statement – I find it difficult to
muster respect for those in authority who wield their power at all costs, just
because they can.
The truth is, because I have worked under leaders who have
led as Jesus did, powerfully but respectfully, never too busy to affirm and
support, I have trouble reconciling why those who operate on the opposite end
of the spectrum should be in leadership. I have seen all too often the
corruption power brings: at work, in families, and, yes, in the Christian
community at large.
I wasn’t always this way. I was pretty quiet and very trusting
growing up. Looking back, I can’t quite put my finger on what event may have triggered
such a radical change in my attitude. Likely it accumulated as a result of a series
of encounters over many years.
Sometimes my decision to take a stance against authority
figures has resulted in consequences that have hurt me rather than accomplish
my purposes for standing up in the first place. Yet I continued to operate like
this for many years.
The Bible tells us this: “Have confidence in your leaders
and submit to their authority.” (Hebrews
13:17) I have struggled with this passage and how to implement it for a large
part of my adult life. But the Lord has been moving mightily in helping me understand
this Scripture from a spiritual perspective, especially over the last year and
a half while I have had the space and time to do a lot of thinking and praying about
my life.
Recently, the manager of a large Christian radio station sent
out a request for stories about musicians. Never one to ignore an opportunity
for marketing, I responded with a brief email outlining my background and
accomplishments. I think I have an interesting story – certainly not typical –
and was hoping he would agree.
This was the response I received: “I’ve never heard of you.”
And that was it.
I was taken aback. I felt like I was being pushed down before
I was even given a chance. Those awful feelings of powerlessness started to rise.
But as I prayed about this situation, I was convicted not to revert to my old
ways of responding, which historically would have been sending back an email pointing
out how inappropriate the response was; or just as damaging, not saying
anything and stuffing it down, where unhealthy resentment would fester – a
strategy I have adopted on occasion in situations when I realized that saying
anything would just make things worse.
Instead, I saw it as an opportunity to grow – both for me
and for him – in a way that aligned with Jesus’s exhortations about dealing
with conflict in the Book of Matthew (see 18:15), which I happened to be
studying this week.
So I sent back an email encouraging him to see this as an
opportunity to help out a sister in Christ. I shared a couple of Scriptures
with him. And I told him I
would pray for him. That’s it.
I was
pleasantly surprised when he responded back. That led to a dialogue via email over
the course of the afternoon, resulting in his encouragement for me to send my
Christmas CD Red & White for airplay on his radio station next holiday
season.
Fantastic!
I am convinced that it was the Scriptures I forwarded to him
that changed what could have been an uneasy outcome. I didn’t have to say
anything more than point straight to the Word of God.
I will have to remember to do this more often. Thank you
Lord for this revelation!
"And let us consider how we may
spur one another on toward love and good deeds." (Hebrews 10:24)
6 comments:
Thank you Sally for your transparent sharing. You provide here an instructional account. It's noteworthy that your taking that step back and following the Scriptural path led to good relations and better prospects, as well as emotional wellbeing for you. ~~+~~
That 'person in authority' may not have heard of you (how rude!) but God sure has and that is, ultimately, what counts. You handled that situation with grace, my friend, instead of acting on emotion - oh how tempting and temporarily satisfying that can be sometimes. Good for you and see the beauty that came out of your grace. Go Red and White! Blessings, Sally. Loved this post and nodded a lot. :)
You did the right thing Sally! Grace triumphs again
Seems we just keep on growing and growing. In reading your mature response to a rude comment, I have to put myself on the other side too. When I'm in a position of authority, do I encourage and support as Jesus did, or do I start feeling entitled to expect production, no matter what the circumstances?
The learning never ends, does it. Thx for sharing, Sally.
What a wonderful post. I love how you say that you wanted to change both of you. You let go of the resentment and he opened his eyes to the Word of God.
Wonderful so wonderful are His ways.
Blessings,
janis www.janiscox.com
What a great example of what it means when we ask, WWJD? :) Thanks for sharing.
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